#10 ATTITUDE OF A BAD WIFE MATERIAL

10 ATTITUDE OF A BAD WIFE
MATERIAL.

1) Be mindful of a lady who does not
have a relationship with God, who does
not have any desire to build one; she
should be avoided, unless you too do
not have a relationship with Him. A
woman who loves and respects the Lord
will love and respect you in obedience to
the Lord! She will support you spiritually
through prayers and will encourage you
with the word when you are down and
out. She will be there to teach your
children the way of the Lord. She is a
home builder and not a home breaker!.

2) Never get married to a woman who
finds it difficult to respect her father,
elder brother or anyone that represents a
male-figure; she will really find it tough
submitting to you. Do not forget; men
perceive respect as a proof of love and it
is in their nature to value and love
someone that respects them. A good
woman is submissive to her husband
not necessarily because he deserves it
but because it is her nature to do so and
because God commands it.

3) Watch for a woman who is teachable,
flexible and humble. An arrogant,
stubborn and rigid woman is
predisposed to building a bad marriage;
go for her if you want a woman who will
give you trouble at home. The
willingness to learn is an important
factor that can make any woman
become better with time no matter how
crude, immature or incompatible she is
with you. Flexible people adapt to
change and change is consistent in any
marital relationship.

4) Be weary of a lady who has perfected
the art of deception. She can pretend to
be an angel, to love you at all cost and
do everything possible to entice you and
when you are married, she will reveal
her true nature. When a woman is nice
to a fault, everything you do or say is
right, she never gets angry no matter
how you treat her or what happens, I bet
you, she isn't real or genuine. Some
ladies behave this way because they are
desperate to be married, because of
poor self image or for what they will
gain from the relationship e.g Money.
You need to marry a woman who is so
genuine that you will love her for who
she is, loving her in her best and worse
state. However, pretence will never lead
to a lasting marital commitment rather
it will result to a dysfunctional
relationship.

5) Never marry a woman who loves you
for your money, family background, and
social status. The reason is simple;(God
Forbids) when your money is gone and
all your wealth is gone, she will either
abandon you or she will give you a hell
of trouble by nagging you to death.
Money has wings and can fly away and
fly back but true love endures forever.
Secondly, marriage is about the two of
you alone and you will make it happen
based on your character and behaviour.
It is not about your extended family
name and your social status.

6) Any woman who is very lazy and
wants a man to provide EVERYthing for
her is not worth being married to. A
woman, who is always asking for
money, for clothes, for call card, always
demanding money and material things
from you no matter how much you give,
should be avoided. A woman should be
self-reliant; industrious and financially
independent to an extent. There is
nothing wrong with requesting financial
assistance and gifts from someone you
love and want to be married to, however
when such an act becomes a burden, a
demand, a consistent pattern, it is no
longer an expression of love but a mere
act done to fulfil an obligation. I have
observed that most women who
genuinely love their men think of how to
support them and not to rip them off.
They are always looking for ways to
support you and build you up and not to
grab from you.

7) Never get married to a woman who
hardly tells the truth, who has a
tendency to steal out of greed or any
other reason; she may steal from you or
from others one day and cause you a
lifetime embarrassment.
It will be difficult to vouch for or trust a
liar. I heard a story of a wedding that
was called off in Nigeria because, at
night before the wedding, the lady who
was about to wed stole some jewelry
which was bought by her fiancé's
mother for her daughter. When they
started searching for the expensive
jewelries es, no one agreed to have
found them; the lady also denied setting
her eyes on them; but in the course of
the search, it was found in her sister's
box. After much interrogation, the sister
confessed that she was the one who
asked her to hide them.
That was how a wedding involving a
young man based in the US with his
family and this beautiful but dishonest
lady was annulled.

Anyone who has the
propensity to tell lies without remorse
also has the tendency to steal. May God
open your eyes to see clearly!
Be wary of a woman who has unrealistic
expectations from you as she expects
you to make up for the emotional
emptiness of her childhood created by
an absent or unloving father.
A husband cannot parent his wife, it is
the role of her father; he can only parent
his own children. Only God can be a
father to the fatherless or a mother to
the motherless.
Marry a woman who is whole and
mature who does not need to depend on
any man for her sense of fulfilment in life
but on God.

9) Never get married to a lady who
cannot delay gratification. She always
wants to buy more clothes, some more
jewelries, some more shoes, a shopping
freak who hardly saves money. Unless
you are as rich as Bill Gate or Warren
Buffet, it might be burdensome coping
with her. Furthermore, avoid getting
married to a lady who cannot control
her sexual desire and does not place
any value on her body. A virtuous
woman will not want you to go all the
way before marriage because she knows
how to control her emotions and she
exercises restraint on spending.

10) Avoid any lady who does not love
your friends and family members; she
does not allow you to keep in touch with
friends and relatives except hers. A good
lady has a large heart and would be
willing to accommodate others.

Marriage does not mean isolation from
family but rather an integration of a
nuclear family into an extended family.
There are many other factors that can
help you spot a wrong lady but above
all, find a woman who loves God more
than you or anyone else. Her love for
God will bring out the best in her and
enable her love you unreservedly
because she knows that being the best
for you pleases God.
When looking for a wife, focus on finding
a woman who has the traits of a
virtuous woman as listed below.
However, remember that it is important
to become a MR RIGHT before you go
looking for a MRS RIGHT.

Perfection is
not a human attribute.
What the bible says about the qualities
of a Great Wife.
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value. She brings
him good, not harm, all the days of her
life.
She selects wool and flax and works
with eager hands. She is like the
merchant ships, bringing her food from
afar.
She gets up while it is still night; she
provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it; out of
her earnings she plants a vineyard. She
sets about her work vigorously; her
arms are strong for her tasks. She sees
that her trading is profitable, and her
lamp does not go out at night. In her
hand she holds the staff and grasps the
spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor and
extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her
household; for all of them are clothed in
scarlet. She makes coverings for her
bed; she is clothed in fine linen and
purple.
Her husband is respected at the city
gate, where he takes his seat among the
elders of the land. She makes linen
garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with
sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful
instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her
household and does not eat the bread of
idleness. Her children arise and call her
blessed; her husband also, and he
praises her: "Many women do noble
things, but you surpass them all."
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is
fleeting; but a woman who fears the
Lord is to be praised. Honour her for all
that her hands have done, and let her
works bring her praise at the city gate.
PROVERBS 31:10-31